Sunday, June 23, 2013

Keep on Smiling!




大家好!
Hello Everyone!

Life is great! It's been another action-packed week and I am happy to share with you
all my experiences and lessons.

First off, in case you did not hear, I GOT MY BAG BACK!
The best part is, IT STILL HAD EVERYTHING IN IT!
It's pretty crazy how the police were able to retrieve it in such a large
city as Beijing, but miracles can and do happen.

As a result of finding my old bag, I no longer needed my new bag that I had bought as a replacement.
Therefore, about two days ago, I went alone to the market to return my bag and receive a refund.
In China, one thing that I have been told and now have experienced first hand is that things take much longer to process and do here, than they do in America. For example, in America, we just show up with a receipt, return our item, and boom we are out of the store in < 5 minutes. In China, it took me 3 hours to do the same thing. Here's my story:

I walked into the section of the Superstore where I bought the bag.
I greeted the sales associate there with a smile, and he in turn gave a curt nod as
I introduced myself and explained that I wanted to return the bag.

"You can't do that. You can only exchange items. No refunds."

Upon hearing this, I still politely requested a refund on the basis that my return
wasn't founded upon an everyday reason (my scenario included having my bag stolen, police reports, etc.).

He still replied that he would not give a refund, even in my special circumstances.

Now, I could have given up here and just retreated back to my dorm. But I previously heard
from my Chinese roommate that although I may be rejected at first, if I kept on politely insisting on a refund, it could be given to me.

In light of this knowledge, I kept on conversing with my friend, the store associate.
Whenever he started to get angry or frustrated about language barriers or my persistence, I would
laugh and keep on smiling to diffuse the tension. Never once did I give an angry glare or raise my voice. Also, to diffuse tension, I asked for his name (which turned out to be Shi, 史) to humanize
myself in front of him and not just be an entity called a 'customer'.

In my persistence he kept on giving excuses like,

"I need to ask my boss, but he's on lunch-leave now, so come back later."
"In addition to the receipt, you need to bring the small tag that came with the bag when you
first bought it."

Finally, after 3 round-trips to and from the store and my dorm, I received the refund.

LESSONS LEARNED:

1. Be Polite
Whenever someone gets angry at us, our natural response is to become defensive and to be angry back. During my interactions with the store clerk, I remained polite and I kept on smiling and gently talking
with him, despite his anger towards me. Sure enough, as I persisted in smiling and treating him nicely, his anger soon relented and he came to understand me more and reciprocate my calm demeanor.

2. Be Patient/Persistent
Sometimes things don't always go your way the first time. You have unexpected obstacles
that come your way ("My boss is on lunch leave!" "Go back and fetch the tag!").
It's important to be patient and to cooperate where cooperation is due.
Despite the inconvenience of walking back and forth from the store to my dorm, I respected
the store clerk's wishes each time and I patiently fulfilled each requirement he gave me.

I'm very grateful I had this experience, and I look forward to future experiences/opportunities!
----->Future Experience/Opportunity PREVIEW:
I actually saw a cockroach late last night wandering in the hallways. Yep, time to live with my new best friends! WOOOOOOOOOOO :D
And if they get in my way, well...I'm always hungry. MUHAHAHAHAHA jk jk

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Alright, in terms of excursions, to kick off the week I went to Tianqiao Theater (天桥剧场):
Outside

My friends and I saw this musical called The Myth of Kunlun (昆仑神话). 
The main plot of the story is about a boy who stumbles into mythological times and overcomes 
great obstacles and wins the affection of a girl he loves. That's the most simple way to put it, hahaha.
But seriously, it was a great performance and this is the first time I experienced a Beijing show!
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Next up, for my class assignment, I had the opportunity to go to the local park and interview elders about their lives. Check out some pics below:



Exercise machines are abundant here in the parks
Ping-Pong! I wish America had parks like these!
A typical day for a Chinese elder (i.e retired elder) encompasses waking up, doing early morning stretches, buying and preparing food, practicing wushu, playing ping-pong, going for a walk, and other similar activities. 
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Last Friday, I got to go see Chinese acrobats. Definitely the highlight of my week. Check it out:





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Finally, to end on a funny note:
IKEA HOTDOGS: Seems legit...
Uhhh....Adultery much? Haha!



No. Just...no.
What can I say? I love green eggs and ham!









Sunday, June 16, 2013

The First Week

Hi All,

What a week! Please see each of my "mini posts" below to see what I've been up to:
***Please note that for this week, my most important post this week is the last mini post below.
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I arrived in China last Wednesday, June 12th.
Look what I found at the airport:
Welcome to China!
I'm not sure what it is (other than seemingly a big bowl), but I want to call your attention to two things:
1. The people around me
2. The water bottle in my hand
About point 1: China has lots of people. LOTS of people (over 1.35 BILLION!). The copious amounts of people is one of the first things you will notice upon entry to China.
About point 2: You cannot drink tap water in China, bottled water is your best bet always! Nongfu Spring is one of my favorites to drink here (I guess you can call it the "Poland Spring" counterpart)
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During our orientation events, we witnessed a traditional performance.
Here are some pictures!



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A bit random, but check out what I found:
Just a car chillin' on the sidewalk, NBD
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So today is June 16, 2013. My friends and I were assigned a scavenger hunt to go explore the city!
We went to the subway, and while we were buying tickets, I set my bag down for a second to go check up on the others in our group and help them buy tickets and solve any problems that might arise.

...Little did I know, a problem would indeed arise.

After we finished buying tickets, we started to head down the stairs into the subway platform.
At that moment, my back felt really light and I realized that I left my bag by the ticket counter upstairs!
I FLEW upstairs and my eyes darted to where I last set my bag.

It was gone.

My heart started racing and I went to the security guard. We talked in Chinese
and I did my best to describe my bag to her. From what I can understand from our conversation, she told me that she saw someone grab a black bag (mine) and then head off.
We went to the police station and filed a report, but I know that I'm never going to see my bag again.

Okay, so now that all of this "sad" stuff is out of the way, let me tell you how I truly feel about this incident. If I could summarize one feeling I had the WHOLE time I was in this ordeal it was the feeling of gratefulness.

I did not lost my passport.
I did not lose my phone.
I did not lose my wallet.
I did not lose my keys.

Upon further reflection, I realize that I also did not lose my textbooks and notebooks that I need for homework tonight. Most of the things I lost (earphones, hand sanitizer, etc.) I have immediate replacements for back here at my dorm. In effect, I just lost my physical backpack.

From this experience, here is what I learned:
LESSONS LEARNED:
1. NEVER PANIC (after overcoming the initial, instinctive shock of something):
     When I lost my stuff, I started to feel flustered, but very soon, I calmed myself down.
     For example, when I talked with the Chinese police to file a report, I spoke and behaved in a calm, calculated tone.
2. KEEP A POSITIVE MINDSET:
     Remind yourself of the truth: It could always be worse. I kept on thanking God that I did not lose
     my essentials.
3. ALWAYS BE A POSITIVE ROLE MODEL:
     Realize that how you behave is observed by others. As a leader, I always want to enable my friends and followers to become better people. I always want to set a good example for others to follow and build upon!
Thus, during this experience, I wanted to set a good example of how to handle emergencies like these and so I acted accordingly (by remaining CALM and courteous during police talks and by keeping a POSITIVE MINDSET and never complaining or feeding unnecessary negativity to your friends and followers).

When all is said and done, I really want future leaders (people who set examples) to follow Lesson 1 and Lesson 2 so that they can follow through with Lesson 3 and thereby teach others to behave responsibly under pressure.

Finally, above all else, I just want to thank Christ for His mercy today. I learned so much and I believe others learned a lot from my experience as well. God-willing, I will continue to have this attitude of gratitude! Praise God!




Sunday, June 9, 2013

PREP!

Dear Friends and Followers,

I will embark on my journey to China in two days.

Right now I'm taking care of last-minute logistics, saying 'see you laters' to friends here in America, and enjoying time with family.
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*Side note: I believe in "See you Later"...never "Goodbye":
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-jSvL47Jmhu4b/john_q_2002_dropping_mikey_off_at_school/
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I feel excited! I've been reading guidebooks and handbooks and the best advice that I have
encountered is "Don't expect, accept." This is in reference to going into China with an open mind and really doing your best to adapt to the local culture there. Instead of imposing your pre-disposed beliefs, you should adapt and accept the social and cultural norms of your destination.

This is the first time that I am blogging and so I humbly ask for your understanding if any
blog issues arise. Also please keep in mind that the internet in China is not always 100% reliable. That said, I will do my best to update this blog on a weekly basis. Thank you!